“I wanted to put a reference to masturbation in one of the scripts for the Sandman. It was immediately cut by the editor [Karen Berger]. She told me, “There’s no masturbation in the DC Universe.” To which my reaction was, “Well that explains a lot about the DC Universe.””—Neil Gaiman, The Sandman Companion (via braininvain)
Whatever the case, Finkel and Bereznak obviously weren’t a perfect match so why did she feel the need to tell the whole world about it? And more to the point, why did she call him out by name? Finkel is a public figure of sorts but couldn’t she have changed specific details of the story so this guy, who went on an innocent first and second date and had no knowledge that the person sitting across from him would publicly call him out be spared possible humiliation?
Finkel, at least, has responded to the article with his side of the story via his Twitter account.
Thanks for all the support internet. People want “my side” but it was really a complete non event. Go out on a date that’s kinda blah. Next day the girl tweets me about what shes reading about me, my reply is merely a prophetic, “Remember to use your powers only for good.” She then texts me about serial killer dreams and I dont reply because I didnt think we had much chemistry. A couple days later I’m home and I’m a bit bored and I know she works right by me and seemed like the sort of girl I should like so I text her about grabbing a bite since I know she works around the corner. An hour later we meet up and it quickly becomes clear I’m bored, she’s bored (I assume) but its raining heavily out. Eventually I suggest we head out anyways and luckily I find a cab. We go our separate ways and never speak again. At that point I just thought she was a nice girl, which I still mostly think. God knows we’ve all made poor decisions in our lives.
Bereznek made one general statement about the backlash she’s received via her Twitter account: “dudes, i don’t think it’s bad to be a dweeb. i just dont want to date someone i can’t relate to. not an attack. more a cautionary tale.”
Like I said, besides Bereznak’s atrocious personal behavior (she warned us she was shallow, what should we have expected?), it was a horrible breach of basic human trust to publish a story about a person who had no idea he was going to be the subject. At least bad date stories from gossip or fashion magazines have the decency to change names when telling their “cautionary tales.”
Lovers on the rocks are now airing issues in counselling sessions that have arisen from social media, chat rooms and dating websites, Relationships Australia says.
The internet is being turned into a battleground, with social networking sites such as Facebook becoming breeding grounds for jealousy, cheating, snooping and the playing out of nasty break-ups…(and) too much tweeting is nothing to “LOL” about either.
Thank you, Herald-Sun, for that calm and reasoned introduction.
At dinner I got straight down to it. Did he still play? “Yes.” Strike one. How often? “I’m preparing for a tournament this weekend.” Strike two. Who did he hang out with? “I’ve met all my best friends through Magic.” Strike three. I smiled and nodded and listened. Eventually I even felt a little bit bad that I didn’t know shit about the game. Here was a guy who had dedicated a good chunk of his life to mastering Magic, on a date with a girl who can barely play Solitaire. This is what happens, I thought, when you leave things out of your online profile. I was lured on a date thinking I’d met a normal finance guy, only to realize he was a champion dweeb in hedge funder’s clothing.
It’s nice that this girl thinks his gaming is unacceptable, but making fun of him for it publicly is not.
I could see why she wouldn’t want to do date a guy who has a hobby he enjoys (and is apparently very good at), and friends who enjoy it, too. I would HATE to have a boyfriend who was interested in things and had friends he could talk to about stuff! YUCK!!!
what muff said.
plus, she’s really shooting herself in the foot - nerds lay some of the best pipe.
no, this is NOT “what happens when you leave things out of your online dating profile.” this is what happens when you judge people for their interests and are a close-minded jerk. the only thing i’ll grant her is that MAYBE meeting ALL of your friends through one interest is a little bit of a yellow flag. MAYBE. but that’s it.
The great thing about this is any of her potential dates who take her advice and Google the shit out of her will find this catty blog-o-sphere tripe she posted before it’s too late for THEM.
“I used to read the first science fiction books, and I began to learn about the universe myself and take it seriously. I know the names of the stars. I know how near or far the heavenly bodies are from our own planet. I know our own place in the universe. I can feel the vastness of it inside myself. I began to realize with each passing fact what a wonderful and awesome place the universe is, and that helped me in comics because I was looking for the awesome.”—From Jack Kirby’s 1990 Comics Journal interview. (via strangemysterytheater)
“Say I am passionately attached, in love, or whatever, to another human being and I declare my love, my passion for him or her. There is always something shocking, violent in it. This may sound like a joke, but it isn’t - you cannot do the game of erotic seduction in politically correct terms. There is a moment of violence, when you say: ‘I love you, I want you.’ In no way can you bypass this violent aspect. So I even think that the fear of sexual harassment in a way includes this aspect, a fear of a too violent, too open encounter with another human being.”—Zizek - in Spiked Culture. November 15, 2001 (via ih8urguts)
“Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image.”—Bruce Lee (via lucifelle)
Quirks: dunno. That’s for other people to point out.
Favorite body part: of mine? Shoulders.
Phobias: Since I saw one day and felt a bit uneasy - clowns.
Song most played in music library: the live cover of Elvis Costello’s “I Want You” by Fiona Apple.
Least favorite author: Who’s the joker who wrote those sappy romances that got turned into films, and had an interview in which he did naught else but proclaim how talented he was? Nicholas Sparks? He’ll do.
Favorite author: I don’t have a writer whom I follow from book to book (don’t think I ever have, actually), so I’ll let this one lie.